Are you Bisensual?

by Leola

I am a woman. And I celebrate women. I want to be near them. To be held by them and to love them up. But I don’t want to fuck or date them in the same I desire to with men.

I am bisensual. Bisensuality is a lesser-known attraction orientation defined as having the desire for non-sexual body contact (such as cuddling, massaging, worshiping, etc) with members of both genders.

I do not claim to be an expert on the non-binary or LGBTQ+ world, but after personal experience and experimentation it feels incredibly liberating to give myself permission to claim my desire to connect with the ladies.

Having been raised in an environment where any expressed attraction to the opposite sex was threatened with eternity in hell, it has felt edgy to share the pleasure I get from touching and being touched by women. 

I’ve always had this attraction to my same sex - for as long as I can remember. I was actually really afraid of the desire for decades, because I thought it meant I was bi-sexual. The inherent shame our society has put on everything but heterosexuality kept me from even thinking about connecting with women; that is until I was in my early 20s and very much on my sexual healing journey.

By then, I was able to let-go of the fear-based belief system I inherited and allow myself to actually try connecting with women. I gave myself permission to test out all sorts of platonic, sensual, and sexual acts with other gals. I came out the other side realizing I’m not homosexual… while I’m happy to “take one for the team” if my partner desires a threesome, licking pussy just doesn’t do it for me.

But I am bisensual. I am so down to caress her body. To have her kiss my neck. To admire her beauty, vilifying each other.

While I’m not usually big on labels, owning my bisensuality has given me loads of freedom to explore deeply fulfilling connections with a broader range of individuals. 

Have you ever felt attracted to someone of the same gender but not wanted to be sexual? Have you considered the difference between sensuality and sexuality in how you desire to connect with others? It may be worth thinking about! There could be a whole lot of potential pleasure waiting on the other side.

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